Welcome to my new personal blog series, “Beauty of Payne,” which has become the mantra of my thirties after retiring the old mantra of my twenties, “Dating is a Payne.” In that blog, I was raw, uncensored and real. There were people that loved it. Others who hated it. And some were even ashamed for me. At first, I didn’t care what other people thought; I was happy just being me and having the freedom to express myself unabashedly. But then one day, I stopped writing, and I started censoring myself because I had grown to believe that my passion hobby was hurting my chances of love. Hogglewash! I’d argue that my new blog will work like an amazing water filtration system, filtering out all the duds. I can’t really say for sure, but one thing I am certain of is that I’m done being afraid to write for myself. I have so much to share and it’s selfish of me to keep it all to myself when I know that someone, somewhere out there in the blogosphere could benefit from the wisdom I have to share from my experiences as well as the experiences of others.
When I first started my “Dating is a Payne” blog, I had just got out of a serious relationship and was really frustrated by how backwards dating had become. I would blog about my dating adventures and some of the shameful and not-so-shameful experiences of my non-existent love live, but overactive sex life. Being single and staying single was the mantra of my twenties, but now that I’m in my thirties, I am so freaking grateful I deleted the contents of that blog and even more grateful that all 300+ articles I wrote as the LA Single’s Examiner are no longer circulating the web because I’m finally ready for love, and most of the stuff I wrote in my 20s no longer reflects who I’ve become in my 30s.
Rather than complain about dating the way I used to in my original blog series, this time, for my new blog series, I’m going to be writing about my entrepreneurial escapades, #dreambuilding projects and pretty much anything that excites me enough to want to blog about it and share. Stay tuned! In the meanwhile, I’ve got to get back to preparing for a social media talk I’m doing for the American Hypnosis Association and working on a consulting project! Wish me luck!